So tired! XD
So tired! XD
So today, as I was leaving my friend Rob’s house. I thought to myself. I have never felt more alone in my life.
I have friends that love me. I have a family that loves me. So what’s missing?
I feel like I ask myself this question too many times. Shouldn’t I be happy tat I have friends and family that love and support me?
Even though I do have all those things, I still feel an emptiness inside. Could it be my job situation? Could it be that I haven’t paid off any of my bills? I have no idea. Maybe it’s the fact that I am 23 going to be 24 in 4 months and I feel like I haven’t accomplished anything.
I have no idea what it is, but something needs to change and it needs to change like yesterday.
Happy birthday to one of my besties!!!!! You have been there to pick me up when I’m down and celebrate my victories!!!! I love the heck out of you!!! Hope your birthday is a great one and see you when you come back from Hawaii!!!!! Love ya!!!
I’m blonde!!!! :D
This is some fucking outrageous bull shit!!!!
Best meme ever!!!!!!
Who creates the rules for relationships? Are there a set amount of rules that need to be followed? Are there specific rules that every relationship should follow? How do you come up with the rules to your relationships?
Aright, so as we all know there are so many different types of relationships and so many different rules that these relationships strive on. So here is my opinion on rules of relationships and what I think every couple needs to know.
First off, STOP TRYING TO CONTROL EACH OTHER! We are all individuals and we have individual needs that need to be met. If you can’t understand that, than you can get the fuck out of here right now because I will not tolerate that bull shit.
So, to start answering the afore mentioned questions, who creates the rules for the relationships? Are the people who originally started relationships responsible for the rules? No, I definitely do not think that is true. I feel that the two people involved in the relationship are responsible for the rules in their own relationship.
Which brings me to my next point that no one but the two people involved can be responsible for the “rules” of the relationship. For instance, a best friend of mine, who shall remain nameless, have a rule that her and her significant other do not call each other boyfriend and girlfriend when they are with each other. Why? I have no idea, but it’s something that they agreed upon and don’t do. Is it any of my business what their rules are? No, it’s their relationship and they can create whatever rules they want to.
So to answer the next question, no there isn’t a max of rules that can be set in a relationship. Every relationship is different and will have a different amount of rules or boundaries to follow by. THE LIMIT DOES NOT EXSIST! (Sorry, I had to put a Mean Girls reference in here somewhere!)
I believe that there are some rules that are universal. For instance if you are in a MONOGAMOUS relationship and have stated that you two are in a monogamous relationship than NO ONE should be cheating. Now, if you were to tell me that you had an open relationship, than there are a different set of rules for that and that’s just a whole another complicated type of relationship. At least, it’s complicated for me.
Anyways, the last and final question, how do you come up with rules to your relationships? Please, fill me in on how you come up with rules and boundaries for your relationship.
All in all, I feel like every relationship is different. If you want to be truly happy, you have to treat your significant other as an individual and not the same as the last one.
When I was 10 I thought I could only have one best friend because “best” is being greater than the rest of the people around. I have come to the realization recently that there can be more than one best.
You see, I have multiple best friends and they all bring different things to the table and mean different things to me. Some are the funny and bring out my childish side, some bring out my adventurous side, and some bring out my realistic side. They all have things in common though. They all bring out the best in me and make me strive to come out of my comfort zone.
I may bitch about them from time to time, but who can like somebody all the time. I just know that I love them all the same. They aren’t just friends, they are family.
Which brings me to my next point, when did they stop being friends, and start being family? Probably when I told myself that it didn’t matter that Adrianna fought at the club with her ex, because I still loved her regardless of the decisions that I thought were right or wrong. Also, when Natalie moved away to Missouri after high school for college, I thought, “She won’t be happy there.” But look at her now, she is married and she is working towards getting her master’s degree in sports psychology.
Best friends aren’t there to judge you, they are there to support you and the things you do. People are best friends to help guide each other and be there for support when you need it and even when you don’t need it. Best friends are there for life. Regardless of the dumb shit you or they do. It’s a part of like and if you aren’t willing to act a fool or be around people acting like fools, than you can’t call yourself or your friends a best friend.
I have been in two relationships. One was two and a half years and the other was a year and a half. They were two very different relationships.
My very first actual relationship was with James. We met on Myspace when it was still relevant and then decided to meet at Disneyland. He was on a staycation with his family. They liked to rent a hotel room for a couple days and go to Disneyland. When we saw each other we pretty much knew that we loved each other right away. We had our struggles but we never broke up. Two and a half years later I broke up with him. People asked me that why I would do something like that. You guys made such a great couple. I did it because I didn’t want to cheat. I had just entered college and it was new and exciting and so many temptations going on. I made a decision and that decision was to see other people. If we truly loved each other we would find our way back to each other someday. And so we went our separate ways.
My second relationship was with a guy named Chris. We had an okay relationship. I lent his family borrow money and whenever I wanted to see him I had to give him money. It wasn’t a great relationship, but I loved him. So I was willing to do whatever it took to see him. It ended with him cheating and everything ended.
My point of all of this is that shit happens in life that you can control and shit happens that you can’t control. Instead of spending time worrying about the things in life you can’t control, spend your time on things you can control and start fixing those things. Once you do that the things you can’t control will fix work themselves out.
When do you know that you are happy?
When do you know that you are in love?
When do you know that you have self worth?
You realize all these things when you accept yourself for who you are. When you realize that you make mistakes, that you aren’t perfect, and that you can’t always have everything your way.
Learning to love and accept yourself is a part of life. Not everyone can do, but everyone should do it. I have and am a happier person because of it. I realize my faults and accept them and I am learning from them.
Life will be so much better for you when you accept your faults and own them!